3 Romantic Myths: Is One of Them Keeping You Single?
Karen has expectations in love.
Karen has needs she needs to be met.
Karen believes when she meets her dream man, she’ll just know it. She’ll just know deep down inside in the very bottom of her heart.
Karen believes in love at first sight. She believes her man will know her, understand her needs and of course … the sex will be fantastic.
Unfortunately, Karen’s beliefs in her romantic myths are quite simply … keeping her single.
Are you like Karen? Do your romantic myths keep you from having the love you want?
Having grown up with so many “fairy tales” it’s hard to know what’s real and what’s not.
There are many myths in romance. Here are three. Is one keeping you unavailable for true love?
1. When I meet him, I’ll just know…
It could happen. Everyone knows someone who knows someone who saw each other across the room and they just kneeeww. It happens.
However, if you believe that you’ll know him as soon as you meet him, stop it. It’s a myth.
Relationships take time. It takes time to get to know someone. You aren’t going to have all the information you need to know on the first date.
In fairness, men can see someone across the room and know if he’s into her or not. Men are naturally visual. Men know quickly what works for them and what doesn’t.
Women usually like hearing the deal. What’s the man made of? What can he offer? Details like that.
If you think you’ll just know when you meet him, you’re thinking like a man. You could be missing out on great romantic opportunities.
Relationships come in surprise packages. Very surprising. My package came as a French/Italian bartender, ten years younger while I was sailing in the Mediterranean with Mother. (Not the man on paper I was looking to marry.) Fortunately, he’s grown to be my greatest Hero.
So give a guy a chance … even if he doesn’t meet your expectations on the first date. He just may grow on you.
2. My soul mate will understand what I need and give it to me without my having to ask.
It could happen. You could meet a mind reader. But don’t count on it.
As women, we think men get it. They don’t. They never will … not the way we get it. They get something completely different.
Men aren’t built like us. (Never will be.)
Men don’t speak like us. (Never will.)
Men don’t think like us. (Nope. Never will.)
You may as well know … if you want a man to understand you and give you what you need, it’s a good idea to know how to speak his language so he can do just that.
3. If the chemistry is great and the sex is hot, it means we should be together.
Right. How many times have you tried to convince yourself of this one? We’ve all been there. Great sex isn’t all it takes to have a successful romantic relationship. (Pity.)
We feel chemistry. We have sex. We get bonded. We call it love. It’s not.
It’s your sex hormones … your oxytocin. Bonds you like crazy glue to a man, making you crave him (yummmm) but that doesn’t mean he’s a romantic fit.
Are you compatible? Do you even like the guy? Does he enhance your life? These are ideas you want to consider for love.
And if you get great sex too … well that’s an art!
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