Book Review: The Truth About Men Will Set You Free…But First It’ll Piss You Off

сентября 24, 2020

"Women's liberation is wonderful for helping women compete with men as equals in business, but it's a disaster for them when they want to marry."

This comes from a woman, Dr. Pat Allen, who has been married and who has undoubtedly benefited from the women's liberation movement. But, that's what's great about Dr. Allen, she tells the unadulterated truth.

It is an unfortunate reality that over the past 40-50 years while women have made advances socially, economically, and politically, our personal relationships have in many ways deteriorated. In this book, Dr. Pat Allen and her co-author Don Schmincke use science and biology to outline male/female attraction and the mating dance. Though we may be living in the 21st century, our bodies still have not caught up. We really haven't evolved that much.

I didn't get pissed off while reading this book. There was a lot of humor in this book and I laughed out loud in many parts. In fact, I felt like this book validated a lot of the ideas I've had about men and women and relationships since I was in college. I don't think it's the truth about men that should piss women off- it's the fact that we've been socialized to ignore these truths (by the political correctness brigade) for so long that should. It would've saved many of us a lot of trouble and pain.

This book challenges almost everything you've ever heard or read about men and women and relationships- even the Adam and Eve creation story. It left me questioning many things and I ended up reading the book twice.

The truth is that women and men are innately different. We literally are like Mars and Venus. Apples and oranges. Even our brains are different. It's not about equality versus inequality because one is no better than the other- just different. Are apples and oranges equal/unequal? Does that question even make sense? If it doesn't than I hope you see my point. Until science has devised a way to change our biological natures and subsequently alter our mating habits, no legislation or cultural movement will change this.

We may be living in a 21^st century world, but our bodies are still quite animalistic…yes that even applies to us women too. But it's these differences that work successfully together! The fact that you're alive reading this is testament to that fact.

Here are some of the politically incorrect but scientifically accurate insights you may glean from reading this book that will either surprise or irk you:

"Relationship economics is simply the exchange of money [resources] for sex [love]. Evolution does not apologize for this. The intention is survival of the gene." pg. 96. In other words, we're all Pros and Johns.

Surprise! Your confidence will NOT make you more attractive to men. Further, on the first meeting he really does not care about your career, how smart you are, your ambitions, or your interests. So, what do men instinctively notice first and why?

What is the key trait that makes a man more attractive than the next guy? Despite what we ladies may say, it's his level of success, it trumps everything else! It's more important than physical attractiveness and even emotional availability. Men know this. Why do you think (normal) men work so hard to achieve? Why do you think it is that very successful men are seemingly more likely to have extra-marital affairs?

Marrying up is a natural inclination…for women. Why women seek out higher status men and men seek out lower status women. From an evolutionary standpoint it is important that women be picky when choosing a mate- so maintain your standards ladies!

Monogamy is an unnatural relationship state, especially for men. However, it is the best system in place to ensure the rearing of successful offspring. This still does not excuse infidelity though.

The truth about oral sex. Oral sex actually serves a very important biological and evolutionary purpose that goes beyond simple pleasure seeking! It is also a very intimate act that really should not be given the handshake treatment that our society currently lends it. Thanks, Bill Clinton.

That's only the tip of the iceberg! This book covers much, much more material.

So would I recommend it? Yes, I'd say it's worth an objective read. All of the points made are backed up with real scientific research and data. If you're comfortable hearing the truth- straight no chaser- you'll be fine reading this. If you're a realist, I don't foresee you being pissed off at all. I think this book goes a long way to helping men and women better understand each other- if only it were more readily available, but that's another story.