Getting Good with Women Can Be Brutal

 

I think something great is happening here.

But before I say what it is and why, I want to make something clear: Learning to improve your dating skills with women can be a brutal process.

Let me tell you a story…

I was walking down the street last night, filled with anger, bitterness and hopelessness. I was walking with my Legend and Amp, spitting absolute venom about dating, women and the game in general.

“It’s all so unfair. I work so hard to be a good person in the world. With integrity. With loyalty. With honesty and honor.

And yet I can walk up to a girl in a bar, say something to open a dialogue with the purest of intentions and somehow in this world it’s OK for her to look at me like a piece of garbage and coldly dismiss me like I’m some sort of social parasite.

To be honest, I need to conjure every ounce of strength I have to not flip out at these implicit social insults. Who is she to judge me?”

And on and on I went, pissing and moaning about how much I hate the “game” and how annoying this all can be.

Having shattered their until-moments-ago-euphoric buzz, and Legend look at me, desperately hoping to talk me off the ledge. “Edge, you know it’s a game. Yeah, it’s bullshit at times, but it’s not like you don’t know what you’re doing. You’ve dated 7 girls at the same time! You’ve had threesomes and dated every type of girl on the checklist…”

“Yeah,” I said, “but that doesn’t mean it feels like success to me…”

OK, so what’s my point in sharing this story.

My point is that doing what it takes to get good with women is brutal. It’s psychologically taxing and it brings up stuff for all of us, as men, that can be hard to handle.

Even with years of dating experience. Even with a history of success (by objective standards). Even when you know all the “right” things to do.

Sometimes, with the right amount of stress and some other unfavorable circumstances in place, you just get pissed.

Now why am I talking about this? Aren’t I, as the group organizer, supposed to be opening the group with an inspiring message where I paint a rose-colored portrait of all the lust, romance and sex you’re going to get from hot women once you learn to get “in the groove”?

Well… I could do that. Everyone else on the internet seems to: “The ONE trick that will pack your bedroom with more women than you can handle” or “Five things you can do to guaranteed you get laid tonight.”

I’m a total optimist and I believe we all have tremendous power to transform from whoever we are now into whoever we WANT to be.

Moreover, I think there is no force more powerful in the universe than a group of MEN dedicated to a clear, inspired pursuit.

But I want to make one thing clear: I am NOT going to be the charlatan that “markets” to you, like a bunch of dumb cattle that will swallow the fantasy image.

This is a journey of ups and downs. You’ll have periods of success and inspiration and you’ll have moments of anger and despair.

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BUT YOU’LL BE MEN.

That means stepping up. That means committing to improving. That means being willing to get in the trenches and take some hits if that’s what it takes to succeed.

And you’ll grow. If you’re strong enough to accept that learning to improve with women isn’t a pleasure cruise, then I have complete faith that we can get you to wherever you want to go.

So when I said something great is happening here, this is what it is: This is a group of men who want to be better with women. And like I said, there is NOTHING more powerful than a group of men dedicated to a worthy pursuit.

You know, one of my favorite movies is FIGHT CLUB. I think there’s something about that movie that resonates with a lot of men today, and that is that we’ve allowed ourselves to become soft and disconnected.

In general, the majority of men today lead lives of quiet desperation. As miserable as the frustrations can sometimes be, I am infinitely grateful not to be a broken-man, submissively saying, “Yes dear” because my spirit to take what I want is dead. To me, that is a fate far worse than 10,000 nasty rejections.

I want this group to be one where we recognize that part of ourselves: The part that steps up to go for what we want. The part that soldiers on and is willing to do whatever it takes to shape his life. The part that calls upon his strength and courage to grow as a person, instead of submissively accepting whatever scraps the universe is willing to hand him.

This will be more than a group. This will be men coming together to grow into the men they want to be and taking what they want to take.

THIS IS NOT A SUPPORT GROUP. THIS IS NOT A GROUP FOR BROKEN MEN. THIS A NOT GOING TO BE A SYMPATHY PARTY.

This is going to be a place where men who want to step up MOTIVATE each other to be strong men. Soldiers, relentlessly pursuing their mission of shaping their lives and not accepting garbage in place of their dreams.

I don’t care if you’ve never been with a woman and have had nothing but strike-outs your whole life. At the same time, I don’t care if you are a world-class player and have seen more action than Will Chamberlain.

What I DO care about is that you are willing to pursue this with BALLS and that you have your heart set on improvement. This is about getting you to where you want to go. This is about you GETTING what you want instead of just passively wanting things but settling for whatever you’ve been getting.

I have no shame about sharing my successes or failures with you guys. But for your own sakes, I want you to recognize the power and opportunity you have here and POST YOUR COMMENTS, QUESTIONS, STICKING POINTS AND FRUSTRATIONS ON THIS WEBSITE so we can start progressing together as a group.